Knowing the year of your car might help a bit, I don't know if they were all the same or not. Generally, the two wires closest to the pedal are your brake lights. With the key off, unplug the bottom connector. One is hot, one is not, and if you jumper the pins, the brake lights come on. The one that wasn't hot is probably the one you are looking for (consult your controller instructions to be sure).